There is a reason why grateful people are more likable than others. They take time to step back and put others before themselves—in a healthy way. Last time we talked about how gratitude can make you more likable.
But WHY do we like grateful people?
1. Grateful people make good teammates.
They pitch in with a sense of gratitude and a positive attitude. Grateful people appreciate the skills of others with a sense of camaraderie. They acknowledge the help and talents of others on the team and are confident in their capabilities without overshadowing others.
Why? Because they know their success rests on the shoulders of many other people.
2.Grateful people share.
They realize that when you give to others in a sincere and pure manner, it comes back to you tenfold. Thankful people are 20% more generous with their time and money than those who are ungrateful.
We like people who share, whether it’s skills or food, insights or a favorite book. Sharing is a likable trait. Gratitude helps us feel generous.
A person with a true attitude of gratitude exudes an aura. Their pleasant impression draws you from across the room. People want to connect with grateful people. It doesn’t stop there. Grateful people help others expand their network.
We all like introductions to people who can help us and whom we can help. We especially appreciate the person who introduces us.
4. Grateful people are supportive.
It’s a great feeling to know someone has your back. Think about the last person that supported your position or opinion. A grateful attitude cultivates supportive relationships. We appreciate and like supportive individuals.
5. Grateful people are empathetic.
They care about the feelings of others thus uncovering and affirming other’s feelings.
Gratitude helps us to think outside ourselves. It encourages us to understand how the other person feels. Grateful people say things like, “I can imagine how excited you are” or “I’m so happy for you” or “That must have been difficult.”
6. Grateful people express their confidence in others.
Kindness and encouragement can take relationships, and performance, to the next level. A handwritten note is the ultimate way to send this sincere message. Everyone loves a handwritten note, and writing a meaningful thank you doesn’t have to be hard.
It takes only a few words to convey your support of a friend, employee, or child. Sending a brief handwritten message like “I believe in you” or “I trust your decision completely” is a fantastic way to make a day—or a lifetime!
Your likability will shoot off the charts.
Attention To Detail
Gratitude reminds us to appreciate the small stuff. Often, it’s the little things that make or break a relationship. Saying, “You’re welcome” instead of an off-hand, “Sure.” Thanking a colleague for covering the phone. Noting helpful gestures around the house. These brief responses create feelings of goodness.
When my husband refilled the toilet paper in my bathroom, I wrote a note on his mirror (in dry erase marker). “Thanks for replacing the TP; I didn’t have to drip dry.” His laughter, and the fact that he still has it on his mirror after many months told me he liked and valued the message.
Improved Quality of Life
We like grateful people because they make life more enjoyable. Grateful people express appreciation for the little things in life as well as the milestones. We like that. We all want and need to feel valued and appreciated.
When we focus on the people and things for which we are grateful, liking ourselves and others is much easier.
Next time we’ll visit the topic of self-likability. Why We Like Grateful People is the second in a series of three articles on likability and gratitude. The series begins with 5 Ways Gratitude Makes You More Likeable and ends with Do You Like Me? Do I Like Me?
LaDonna Greiner is a motivational coach and speaker. She is a life-long student of gratitude and author of the book series, 21 Reasons to Say Thank You. Her books provide businesses and individuals with the tools and practical guidance needed to help them express gratitude and appreciation to others through handwritten notes and other activities. Learn more at www.21ReasonsToSayThank You.com/shop.